Bearing the Unbearable

“Let every nation know, whether it wishes us well or ill, that we shall pay any price, bear any burden,meet any hardship, support any friend, oppose any foe to assure the survival and the success of liberty.”— John F. Kennedy Grief has its own kind of battle. Parents who have lost a child understand what … Read more

Staying on the Tracks

“I was the conductor of the Underground Railroad for eight years, and I can say what most conductors can’t say — I never ran my train off the track and I never lost a passenger.” — Harriet Tubman Grieving a child can feel like trying to move a train with no tracks. Each day demands … Read more

Facing the Fear

“The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.” — Franklin D. Roosevelt Grieving parents often wake in fear. The fear may not come from something specific. The fear comes from the unknown. Fear arrives with a racing heart, a shallow breath, and the weight of what can never be fixed. Losing a child … Read more

The Hard Work of Healing

“If there is no struggle, there is no progress. Those who profess to favor freedom and yet depreciate agitation are men who want crops without plowing up the ground.” — Frederick Douglass Grieving the death of a child is the deepest struggle many people will ever face. The pain goes beyond words. Every morning can … Read more

Wounded Healers

“Everyone alive has suffered. It is the wisdom gained from our wounds that makes us able to heal. Wounded people can best be healed by other wounded people.” — Rachel Naomi Remen Grieving the loss of a child reshapes a parent in ways no one can prepare for. The pain touches every part of the … Read more

The Illusion of Separation

“The understanding of interbeing helps us to remove the illusion of loneliness, and transform the anger that comes from the feeling of separation.”— Thich Nhat Hanh Grief often isolates the heart. Parents who lose a child sometimes feel separated from the living world. Familiar spaces feel foreign. Laughter can sting. Time feels warped. Many grieving … Read more

The Spirit of Ubuntu

“A person with ubuntu is open and available to others, affirming of others, does not feel threatened that others are able and good.” — Desmond Tutu Grief can make the world feel smaller. The loss of a child often turns the heart inward. Pain builds a wall around the soul. Many grieving parents isolate themselves, … Read more

The Quiet Impact of Grief

“You cannot get through a single day without having an impact on the world around you.” — Jane Goodall Grief can feel like disappearance. The loss of a child often makes the world seem distant and unrecognizable. Many grieving parents feel invisible, as if their shattered hearts no longer matter. But every grieving person still … Read more

True Belonging in Grief

“When a group or community doesn’t tolerate dissent and disagreement, it forgoes any experience of inextricable connection. There is no true belonging.” — Brené Brown Grieving parents often feel out of place. Many well-meaning people offer advice, silence, or judgment instead of compassion. Deep grief can make others uncomfortable. The need to fix or explain … Read more

The Quiet Gift of Community

“Community is the fruit of our capacity to make the interests of others more important than our own.” — Henri Nouwen Grief often isolates. Many grieving parents feel separated from the world they once trusted. The pain of losing a child can silence even the most social spirit. People mean well, but few understand the … Read more