February 19, 2026

Strength in Sorrow and Joy

“So he tasted the deep pain that is reserved only for the strong, just as he had tasted for a little while the deep happiness.” — F. Scott Fitzgerald

Grieving parents carry a kind of strength few understand. The depth of sorrow often feels unbearable. Pain settles deep inside, where only the strongest can endure it. Many parents know this pain intimately, yet the presence of such grief reveals resilience. The paradox of loss is that those who suffer most deeply often hold a well of courage few see. Pain shapes the soul, carving spaces for growth, even when it feels overwhelming. That strength does not erase the ache but shows the heart’s capacity to survive and love beyond loss.

Moments of happiness may seem fleeting after profound loss. The contrast between sorrow and joy can feel stark and confusing. Grieving parents may find themselves caught between holding on and letting go. Small bursts of happiness carry a bittersweet quality. The memory of joy becomes a touchstone for what was and what might have been. Even brief moments of happiness reveal the beauty life still holds. Those moments do not diminish grief but coexist with it, teaching acceptance and hope.

Strength grows in the tension between pain and joy. Grieving parents learn to live with both realities. Holding space for sorrow does not prevent the heart from opening to happiness. Both experiences deepen understanding and compassion. The strongest hearts move through the darkest pain toward moments of light. The journey is neither linear nor simple. Strength lies in embracing the full spectrum of feelings and honoring every step forward, no matter how small.

Thought for today: Honor your strength in both sorrow and joy. Allow both to teach and guide your healing journey.


On August 16, 2017, my son, Anthony James Cristello, took his own life at the age of 35. That day, I joined a worldwide club no one ever asks to be part of.

Thank you for letting me share my experience, strength, and hope with you. I only ask this: believe that I believe—hope is possible.

Bob

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