“Forgiveness is an act of the will, and the will can function regardless of the temperature of the heart.” — Corrie Ten Boom
Grief often brings a storm of emotions, including anger, confusion, and regret. Forgiveness may seem impossible when pain feels raw and unbearable. Many grieving parents struggle with forgiving themselves or others involved in their loss. Forgiveness does not require feeling peace or warmth in the moment. Forgiveness begins as a decision—a conscious act of will that can exist apart from feelings. Choosing forgiveness creates space to breathe and to heal slowly over time. The will to forgive is a powerful step toward reclaiming peace.
Pain often keeps the heart frozen, making forgiveness feel distant. The weight of sorrow can numb emotions and cloud judgment. Even in coldness, the will can choose a different path. Forgiveness is not forgetting or excusing the hurt. Forgiveness is releasing the hold pain has over the spirit. Forgiveness allows a grieving person to walk forward without carrying the extra burden of bitterness. The act of forgiving is an invitation to light and healing beyond grief’s shadow.
Many grieving people believe forgiveness must come naturally to feel genuine. The will to forgive proves otherwise. Forgiveness can be chosen even when the heart resists. The journey toward forgiveness may take many days, months, or years. The pace matters less than the decision to begin. Forgiving oneself or others does not erase loss, but it softens the heart’s grip. The courage to forgive becomes a lifeline in the sea of grief.
Thought for today: Forgiveness is a choice, not a feeling. Choose forgiveness as a step toward peace and healing.