“To defend oneself against a fear is simply to insure that one will, one day, be conquered by it; fears must be faced.” — James Baldwin
Grief brings with it an entire world of fear. Many parents feel afraid to face the truth of what has happened. The loss of a child strikes at the core of what once felt certain. The fear is not just about what has been lost. The fear is about how to live now. Fear can creep into the quiet moments and overwhelm the strongest hearts. Fear can tell us that joy is no longer possible. Avoiding fear might feel like survival, but avoidance keeps grief in the shadows.
The fear of forgetting, the fear of remembering, and the fear of feeling too much all carry heavy weight. Each fear whispers different lies. Grieving parents often fear they will never find their child’s memory again without pain. That fear can keep hearts locked and words unsaid. But fear held inside does not fade. Fear grows when it remains unspoken. Naming the fear gives it less power. Looking at fear directly may bring tears, but it also brings truth. Truth makes healing possible.
Every parent who walks through grief must also walk through fear. No one is immune to that journey. Meeting fear does not mean eliminating sorrow. Facing fear means refusing to let fear define love. Every act of courage begins with a moment of trembling honesty. Sitting with the fear instead of running from it can change everything. Grief teaches that love remains, even when everything else feels lost. The wound softens, not when fear is hidden, but when fear is honored and released.
Thought for today: Speak one fear aloud today. Courage begins with a single moment of truth wrapped in love.