“It takes the greatest kind of courage to do what we want.” — Ayn Rand
Grieving parents often stop wanting. The desire to dream, move forward, or even get out of bed can vanish. The loss of a child strips away meaning, direction, and hope. Life begins to feel like survival rather than living. Many grieving hearts settle into numbness to avoid the deeper pain beneath the surface. Wanting anything after such a loss feels risky. Joy feels disloyal. Hope feels naive. Courage is not found in heroic acts. Courage is found in the quiet willingness to want something again.
Choosing to want something, even something small, requires vulnerability. Grief teaches us how fragile everything is. The fear of losing again can paralyze us. Wanting means opening the heart to possibility. A grieving parent may want connection but fear rejection. A grieving parent may want peace but fear forgetting. Allowing ourselves to want does not erase love for our child. Wanting becomes a way to honor life, not deny death. Grief may stay, but so can courage.
Courage is not always loud. Courage can be saying yes to coffee with a friend. Courage can be speaking our child’s name aloud. Courage can be planting flowers in soil we thought would stay barren. Wanting does not mean we are healed. Wanting means we are still human. The desire to reach for meaning again is sacred. The world may not understand how much bravery it takes to want. But those who grieve know. And we are stronger than we think.
Thought for today: Let courage guide you back to wanting. Even the smallest longing is a sign that life still stirs.