February 20, 2026
The Question of Leaving
“You loved me—then what right had you to leave me?” — Emily Brontë
Grief often brings questions without answers. When a child dies, parents face a silence that feels like betrayal. The heart struggles to understand why someone so deeply loved must be gone. Many grieving parents wrestle with feelings of abandonment and confusion. The love between parent and child does not end with death. That love remains fierce and unbroken. The pain comes from the absence of presence. The mind asks questions because the heart refuses to let go. These questions are part of the journey, not a sign of failure.
A grieving parent’s love stretches beyond physical presence. Love is not limited by time or space. Memories become sacred places where love lives on. The longing to hold, to hear, to see a child again shapes every day. That longing can feel unbearable, yet it also honors the depth of the bond. Anguish and love live side by side in the grieving heart. The love that questions the absence holds the power to heal in time. That healing does not erase the loss but teaches how to carry it.
Facing the question of why a child had to leave is a step toward acceptance. Acceptance does not mean forgetting or giving up love. Acceptance means learning to live with the ache. Many grieving parents find strength in honoring both the question and the love. Holding space for grief and love simultaneously is difficult but necessary. The heart grows stronger not by forgetting, but by embracing the truth. In that truth, peace slowly finds its way.
Thought for today: Allow your heart to hold both grief and love. Questions are part of love’s lasting journey.

On August 16, 2017, my son, Anthony James Cristello, took his own life at the age of 35. That day, I joined a worldwide club no one ever asks to be part of.
Thank you for letting me share my experience, strength, and hope with you. I only ask this: believe that I believe—hope is possible.
Bob
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