Public Speaker Talks

For Want Of A Nail

As a United States Army Veteran, I ask that you remember all who have given their lives in the wars that have built our great nation.  We can agree that we would live in no other place even with our differences.  We can agree that we want the best for our children and that we do not wish for them to endure the hardships of our own past or those of our human neighbors.
Bob CristelloMay 30, 2022

The New Normal

My name is Bob Cristello, and I am a parent of suicide. In the early morning hours of August 16, 2017, my son, Anthony, took his own life at the age of thirty-five. Whatever I was before that day died with my son. Whatever I became after that day is also dead, and I have been born anew.
Bob CristelloApr 30, 2022

22 Per Day: Veterans Suicide

The best possible way to help in any situation is to bring about awareness.  It is important to tell our stories to each other.  When we do that with each other, we find significant change can come into our lives if we allow it to.  Once this change is within us, we cannot help but reach out to others. 
Robert CristelloApr 27, 2022

Parent Of Suicide

I am a Parent Of Suicide. My mission is to share my personal experience, strength, and hope with the world.  My son took his own life many years ago and was dead.  My son is now very much alive for me.  He is alive because others talk to him about me, which they stopped doing on the day he died. 
Robert CristelloApr 23, 2022

The Next Step

I am still in a great deal of emotional pain.  There are many people in pain, just like me.  Worse, there are those without hope, which makes their pain seem so much less bearable.   I have chosen to do something.  I did not know what that looked like five months ago.  Now, I am taking the next step and moving into a new phase of my life.  One free of any tyranny of shame that I created.  A life filled with a loving family, caring friends, and the quiet strong voice of God to guide my steps.
Robert CristelloApr 2, 2022

Brutal Honesty

In Jaws, Peter Benchley wrote the opening line “The great fish moved silently through the night water”. For me, the night water is the calmer pool of grief that I now swim in. I swim in it every moment of every day and I will never be able to leave. I can, instantly, be tossed into the deep and dangerous ocean of shock when I realize that my child is dead all over again. If you have lost someone to suicide, you know the waters I speak of. If you have lost someone for any reason, you still swim in the night water of grief that we all can identify with.
Robert CristelloJan 29, 2022

Change Is Coming

If you are new here, I am sorry for your loss. This is a statement of sympathy that will be offered to you. In these rooms, we learn to empathize before we offer any sympathy. I have learned to say ‘I see you and I love you’. It is a way in which we recognize each other’s pain, while respecting the journey each of us is on now. When I speak to groups now, one of the things I talk about is how sympathy is limited in it’s scope, while empathy embraces the entirety of the human experience.
Robert CristelloJan 26, 2022

Acceptance & Tolerance

I wrote for several months, as others in this group can attest to. I started sharing it on my public timeline and with my family. I then continued to expand as I moved farther and farther away from the shock of my son’s suicide and into the realm of grief. Grief was actually like a calm pool of warm water compared to the raging oceans of shock that I had been riding on. Each day, I asked for help quietly and each night I said thank you. I didn’t start quoting books or attending a church or converting anyone. I did become open to the discussion about God, which I suppose is only fair since I was asking people to be open about the discussion about suicide.
Robert CristelloJan 22, 2022